My Inner Beauty Queen

Dear George:

There is a guy I like and I really wanna talk to him but I don't know what to say or talk about!? I don't go to his school or anything I just sometimes see him on my bus. I'm not good at starting a random converstation with a guy I like! He makes me nervous... but I want to try to talk to him. Any advice?

--Shy Chick

Dear Shy Chick:

I can understand how difficult this is for you -- wanting to go up to talk with him but feeling shy and nervous. I spent most of junior high this way. I made up so many stories in my head about what "my crush" was thinking about me. Did she even know who I was? Did she already have a boyfriend? Would she think I was a geek. If she didn't already, she would certainly think I was a loser when she heard my lame attempt to chat her up.

So you see, I had already dumped myself before we even went out! Assuming the worst prevented me from doing anything. That's why my crush remained just that, with me never having the guts to even say "hey." Don't let that happen to you!

I suggest you turn your nervousness into healthy excitement by telling yourself over and over something positive, like... "I'm smart and beautiful." Or "My friends like me, and he will too!" Try taking a few deep breaths before you approach this guy, and then wing it. Don't worry about what to say -- your inner beauty queen will magically emerge to present your best side.

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